There are regular situations in life that can cause you to feel a negative emotional attachment, one that is not conducive to your wellbeing. All negative emotions need correctly channelling in order to fully benefit from them, otherwise they will continue to effect you on a daily basis, usually in subtle ways that you may not always be aware of.
Negative emotions show themselves via the feelings of disappointment, resentment, hatred, bitterness and so on……you know, the feelings that we don’t usually feel good about and ones which can turn our day from being a good one into a not-so-good one.
There is no need to carry any negative feelings at all in life. If you do, it is because you have yet to move past the situation. By continuing to think negatively of an event means that it is still hurting, irritating, basically still having some claim on your life. In a nutshell, it is like carrying heavy suitcases around because you have not learnt to put them down, accepting that they are doing nothing but giving you back ache and making your journey difficult.
So, how do you start to let go of your negative thoughts and associated feelings about people, situations, conversations, and failed outcomes? The word is forgiveness, but the action of forgiveness runs a little deeper.
Here is how to do it…..and is a method that guarantees success
1: Think of the situation that causes you the most grief/sadness/bitterness/(fill in the blank) (past, present, even future)
2: Close your eyes (you could lie on bed, sit in a chair).
3: Put the person/situation/event/conversation/(fill in the blank) in your mind, and see them/it fastened to you by a heavy chain. You are going to unwind this chain until nothing holds you together.
4: Now you are going to take some scissors and you are going to cut all the imaginary bonds that tie you to this negative situation. Keep cutting until you feel as if you have let go/cut of them all.
5: Then, you are going to give the person/situation a large red heart, and you are going to thank them/it for being in your life. Tell them/it to be gone now, and that they/it are no longer needed.
6: Your final words are, I forgive you.
The deeper your attachment to the negative emotion, the more often you will need to do this, until it gets to the point where all negativity has gone. One day a passing thought will come to mind, and you will find yourself thinking of this person/situation (if at all) with a complete sense of gratitude.
This technique can also be used on a day-to-day basis when any negative situations arise, or if you find yourself becoming disappointed/frustrated/disillusioned. Simply take the scissors in your hand and cut the negative attachments that are going through your mind. Then give a large heart to the situation/person and affirm, Let the goodness and love reveal itself.
